what they don't tell you about wedding planning
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  • Haley Pham
    Haley Pham

    Hi girlypops! I hope you enjoyed the lil intro and editing style of this video! In all reality I am truly having such a good time in my life and not stressing, but this is a video I would’ve loved to watch before getting married to understand the little things that go into a wedding! Thank you for all the kind comments, I love going through and hearting them 🥺🥺🥺🥺

    • Jenn Jones
      Jenn Jones

      I did freeze the top part of my wedding cake and had it a year later. It might sound gross but it was cool to do and it was just as delicious as it was on my wedding day ❣️

    • Amie Kaufman
      Amie Kaufman

      Loved the new editing style 🥰🙏

    • Serenity Campbell
      Serenity Campbell

      Jery xx Yes I understand what you are saying. She definitely could be more careful about those things. It is just really hard to watch every single thing you say making sure you aren’t offending anyone, or saying things that you haven’t done all of the research on.

    • Jery xx
      Jery xx

      Serenity Campbell Hi! Yes, what you said makes sense. And of course her disclaimer about not being a doctor is appreciated. But there’s a difference in giving your opinions on things and then spreading completely false information about sex Ed. None of the things I saw in the video I watched were “opinions” or just her talking about her experiences. She was straight up speaking on things she thought to be truths and when her friend would say “omg is that true I didn’t know that” she would respond with “yes” and now her friend along with everyone else listening thinks that is true. If that makes sense. It’s just not okay since there are girls younger than her listening who might not do their own research who will now believe the things she is saying even though she is completely FALSE and hasn’t done her own research in advance before spreading all this information with thousandssss of people. Ya know?

    • Serenity Campbell
      Serenity Campbell

      Jery xx if you listen to her podcast she talks a lot about how what she says is for her and other have different opinions and things they use and that we shouldn’t take what she says like she is a doctor or anything. So... she understands that. People just need to listen to her podcast more lol (I’m not sure if what I just said makes any sense at all but I hope you understand.)

  • Hailey Galloso
    Hailey Galloso

    i really dont wanna be a hater because i love haley but, like really, she's being kind of dramatic because- ITS GONNA BE STRESSFUL

  • Shelby Bruce
    Shelby Bruce

    Look for all inclusive venues. I'm eloping with a some family in the smoky mountains of tennessee

  • Kasandra Campbell
    Kasandra Campbell

    The best advise I can give about wedding planning is that there is literally nothing you “have to do”. Thinking of all the expectations, traditions, pomp, and showmanship will drive you up a wall. If you don’t like the idea of something flat out don’t do it and move on.

  • Raya Steinbrecher
    Raya Steinbrecher

    you should get like a french manicure for the wedding!

  • Mackenzie Koehler
    Mackenzie Koehler

    i love this video!!

  • Ayyee Its meg
    Ayyee Its meg

    Idk if you know this already but don’t worry about setting up and decorating at the venue on your wedding day! Leave that for others to do that for you. Your big day should be spent relaxing, getting ready, and having fun not stressing about setting up chairs and tables and everything else! Also: one cute idea would be having a drink menu and having a drink named after Spock with his picture next to the picture of the drink

  • Emma Q
    Emma Q

    I got married at 21 and there were so many challenges and stress but our wedding was beautiful and 3 years later we are happier than ever. You’ll be so happy once the actual wedding is over and you guys can just enjoy being married. Wedding planning can suck at times but it’s usually worth it in the end to have a beautiful day you will remember forever.

  • Ares on Mobile
    Ares on Mobile

    Relatable . I hope you and Ryan make it through the community who don’t support the marriage . You guys are made for each other. Though if you feel your not ready I would support the decision.

  • Furieni

    OMG, the seatbelts, my OCD is crying.

  • Strxwberri Mxlkshake
    Strxwberri Mxlkshake

    2:12 wait what 'there's a tiny little man in my stomach'

  • GamersGirlyful

    Okay i love you girl and i might be stepping out of line here but i can't just sit by and watch you do this to yourselves... STRAIGHTEN OUT YOUR CAR BELTS FOR THE LOVE OF GOD it messed me up to see them all twisted like that😭😭

  • lixzzyy

    my luck id get a big zit on my face DAY OF

  • Chloe L. Davis
    Chloe L. Davis

    Just realized I am the same age as you are.. and single in college. I don't know how to feel about it. But I absolutely love watching your videos!!

  • Makyden Parreira
    Makyden Parreira

    Yeah, I bet a wedding is stressful to plan!!

  • SwimSweetie100

    The editing is super annoying in the video. Tooo much

  • Daniel Blount
    Daniel Blount

    Ooh! Idea. Make sure that your videographer and photographer GET ALONG!! I’ve had some based experiences where they just don’t work together in harmony

  • Landen Pham
    Landen Pham

    Hayley I’m your cousin ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhbhhhhhhhh

  • SomtimesZo

    he’s 21 your 19 btw.. also don’t call me a “girly pop”

  • Natalie McCarty
    Natalie McCarty

    you and ryan are so cute

  • Kymia Darab
    Kymia Darab

    Also the way he looks at her just 🥰🥰

  • Kymia Darab
    Kymia Darab

    the intro is so nice

  • Rink

    Yo wtf Im a kid and Im a girlypop?? Well no...Im not subbed and this is my first time watching you and I came here because of Ryan but ye maybe I'll sub later.

  • Arlette Ruiz
    Arlette Ruiz

    Awww the way Ryan looks at Haley so cute

  • kr calbero
    kr calbero

    one MAJOR thing to remember. don’t worry about traditions and the little things. i stressed myself before my wedding w the little things and the endless lists of little things i kept forgetting. GUESS WHAT i don’t even remember my wedding day bc i was so stressed. everyone adding their 2 cents in added more stress and trying to follow them plus traditions made my engagement/planning hard. just do what you want and skip the “i need to have everything correct” i promise it’s not worth it

  • Allen Han
    Allen Han

    I give it 5 years. Noooo one ever stays together when they marry young these days. Every young marriage I've seen divorces before 30. You're a dumbass if you are marrying that young. The moment you get a taste of nightlife or freedom after 21, it will wreck your marriage. It only takes one of them to fuck up.

  • Eshani Mathur
    Eshani Mathur

    Is that a girl love locket? 😍

  • Geetanshi Kaushik
    Geetanshi Kaushik

    how are you doing this during covid?

  • haylee lamb
    haylee lamb

    I love being able to watch you grow on this channel

  • Natalie Brown
    Natalie Brown

    Girl you are rushing this wedding. There's no reason to not to wait a few years and take time making decisions.

  • kayla91794

    Have you checked out the knot? They have like a wedding planning timeline of things to do/get so maybe that would help!

  • Amber Noel
    Amber Noel

    hey girl wondering when restock happens bc yes please

  • Anastasia Cristescu
    Anastasia Cristescu

    Only Jesus can truly satisfy, everything else are just wells that run dry; in Him we have purpose, in Him we find love and comfort and such a great Father, Friend, Savior. He died to save us all, believe in Him today, He is the Way the Truth and the Life and no one comes to the Father but by Him. For all have fallen Short of the glory of God, there is none that does good, No not one.With the heart one believes unto righteousness and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth on Him shall not perish but have everlasting life 🙏🏻🧡:)

  • alexandra beard
    alexandra beard

    i actually loved the intro

  • Abby Moe
    Abby Moe

    Ur gonna have a wedding in the middle of r o n a ??

  • Rawa Biah
    Rawa Biah

    You should watch spv laboratories’s new video called Ryan trahan and Haley Pham need to press pause it’s very interesting and accurate

    • Addie Soignier
      Addie Soignier

      People just need to stop judging them. If you’ve watched some of Ryan’s recent videos you’ll know that he struggled with depression. This is a stressful time for everyone but it doesn’t give anyone a reason to take it out on other. Of course they’ve made some mistakes in the past but so has everyone

    • liizabee

      I second this

  • Ragnheiður Hlynsdóttit
    Ragnheiður Hlynsdóttit

    Haley, there are so many mid rolls. could you please not do so so so many.

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    • emelbird

      Gbekeee it’s worth it i swear😭😭

    • Gbekeee

      emelbird omg it’s 2hrs😫

    • emelbird

      Gbekeee watch the video haha

    • Gbekeee

      Why what happened

  • Kimberly Zeggert
    Kimberly Zeggert

    Idea for hair half up half down wavy soooo adorable

  • its Rahquel
    its Rahquel

    have y’all tried getting spock training of some sort? so he doesnt hate people anymore 😭

  • Missy Elaine
    Missy Elaine

    me watching this while struggling to plan and pay for my own wedding

  • Marisa Zamora
    Marisa Zamora

    Maybe a useful tip: If you have specific people, groups of people, or separate family members, write out a list for your planner and/or your photographer with the names of each people you want in each of the photos with y'all. This will make photos after the ceremony go by faster, smoother, as well as making sure you got photos with everyone you wanted!!

  • Seanna Rose
    Seanna Rose

    The way they look at each other is everything😍

  • Cooper Erickson
    Cooper Erickson

    idk if youre even having a flower girl but if you do you should have her throw dog treats so spock wants to walk down the isle

  • Tiana Trulock
    Tiana Trulock

    "There's a tiny little man in my stomach arguguygeryryer I got da cramps" 😂😂😂 wish I couldn't relate

  • Avery Rocha
    Avery Rocha

    I LOVE WEDDINGS AND PLANNING!!! I've been in 4 weddings and been to at least 20 🤩

  • Miranda Miller
    Miranda Miller

    the twisted seatbelts...UGHH

  • Kristina Calonge
    Kristina Calonge

    Hey Haley, I got married earlier this year! Getting married can be as simple or as complicated as you want it to be! I got married after being engaged for only four months and was kinda stressed bit thankfully was constantly reminded that marriage is much bigger than the food you eat or dress you wear! It's a picture of Christ and his bride and how he was willing to sacrifice himself for the church. It's a larger picture of the Gospel. Praise God that we get to enjoy the gift of marriage. Ephesians 5 is a solid reminder of this truth. 🙂hope this is encouraging!!

  • Erin Hague
    Erin Hague

    I am an XL in hoodies & was really wanting a hoodie but by the time I got paid there was no XL left Bc there wasn’t a lot made. And tie dye is my favorite. Will you be restocking?🥺❤️

  • Lexi Bingham
    Lexi Bingham

    Hair idea: braided bun with curly bangs

  • Lexi Bingham
    Lexi Bingham

    Nobody: Absolutely nobody: Haley: there’s little men in my stomach going “grr err grrr

  • Sarah McDowell
    Sarah McDowell

    take each day at a time Haley! A lot of times when I'm stressed I just have to rest a moment, recenter on God and His promises, and then do the next right step. It's so important to write everything down and keep track, there's a lot to do but don't be afraid to ask for help. Especially if it's for Spock or needing assistance from others- it's easy to forget that it's not all on your shoulders and you can only do so much at one time, so keep reaching out when it becomes overwhelming. You can do it! Remember to be present and lay it all down in Gods hands.

  • A G
    A G

    Someone please tell me where to find those wedding shoes 😭

  • Tales toTell
    Tales toTell

    "Trying to remind myself that I am still a kid" ummm girl, you're a whole ass adult. Own it. You can be a child or a bride. Not both.

  • Madeline R. Young
    Madeline R. Young

    I love how humble and genuine you are 🥺❤️

  • Kiara Nguyen
    Kiara Nguyen

    the way Ryan was staring at you while you were talking about the coffee 🥺

  • Mary Oary
    Mary Oary

    You look so beautiful!

  • Emily Melissa
    Emily Melissa

    Advice for spock: see if y'all could get a pet sitter for your wedding. I was asked to babysit some kids whose aunt was getting married. I attended the wedding and the party afterwords for like, an hour then I took the kids home and put them to sleep

  • Raenna Montoya
    Raenna Montoya

    I feel this my wedding is August 21, 2021 and I have nothing picked but the food and venue and I have no friends for bridesmaids 😂😂

  • Karla Carrazco
    Karla Carrazco

    Can you do a video of where you go more in depth with all the wedding stuff, that no one tells us?

  • Audrey Moore
    Audrey Moore

    dude black rock is the bees knees

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  • Bella Ram
    Bella Ram

    save your wedding flowers and put them in a shadow box!

  • Kate Vento
    Kate Vento

    Omg am I the only person who thought that the wedding planners did everything 😑

  • Kassandra Palmer
    Kassandra Palmer

    I did my own makeup on my wedding day because I wanted to look like myself! No regrets!

  • ErinGrace

    “Idc about the details, I just wanna marry my best friend.” 🥺🥺❤️❤️

  • Taylor Besler
    Taylor Besler

    I absolutely LOVE this video.

  • Jeralyn Montejo
    Jeralyn Montejo

    april kepner can plan for u

  • Tyler Young
    Tyler Young

    Girl SAMMMEEEE IM 19 and getting married next fall and I’m already freaking out with stress!! But it’s a stress I’m grateful for !

  • Maggie

    Hey advice: YOU NEED A CLEANUP CREW FOR AFTER THE RECEPTION!! I go to around 10+ weddings every year and every time they completely forget it. The families normally have to stay for hours and clean. This especially happened at 2 of my siblings weddings (reception ended at 9, i had to stay til 4 cleaning.) I promise you its a massive need. MORE ADVICE: If your table cloths are in need of ironing, start weeks beforehand if your families are doing it. Otherwise hire someone :) much love praying for you, ryan, and your families!! also i PRAY you see this bc its so necessary

  • Nikki Albosta
    Nikki Albosta

    If you wrap the cake REEEALLY well in foil, it'll keep super well in the freezer!! Ours was still really good after a year! :)

  • Nesub Abdi
    Nesub Abdi

    this video screamed WHOLESOME to me!! (and kinda relatable in the future cause i felt the 'find someone to marry me' LOL)

  • Lo ‘
    Lo ‘

    We get it

  • Sxnia

    Who are your wedding shoes made by?

  • Rhiannon Elizabeth
    Rhiannon Elizabeth

    I got married at 18 to the love of my life for immigration related reasons so I feel ya on that "I got married before I could drink" 😂😊 we met in high school and have been together for years

  • Codie Wagers
    Codie Wagers

    who got kinda triggered when the seat belt straps were all janky???

  • Jennifer Pottinger
    Jennifer Pottinger

    Hey girlie! I orded your new girly pp tie die merch in midium, its be a while and I still havent gotten it :c Please reply idk what to do

    • Jennifer Pottinger
      Jennifer Pottinger

      pop* dye*

  • Alexi Madison
    Alexi Madison

    Hayley why you gotta be so amazing like I am just trying to buy like all your merchandise and they are like all sold out. Lysm I hope the stress goes away💖💖

  • Bella Rose
    Bella Rose

    Jamie Wolfer's master plan has helped me a ton!!!

  • Emily Martin
    Emily Martin

    Haley your twisted seatbelts are making me so uncomfortable 😂😂💕 I love you both, I’m 23 And my partner is 21 so this is so relatable. Him and I are faced with a world who is telling us we are too young so I am right there with you sis. Life is stressful, but God really has it all written down and has it all handled already. Keep your chin up, I love you.

  • Lisa Lele
    Lisa Lele

    This was such a fun vid!

  • Hamilton.Is.Life

    Elope 👁👄👁 jk

  • Ashley Pearse
    Ashley Pearse

    I wonder if you would like a waterfall braid with the waves/curls.

  • Yinte Meijer
    Yinte Meijer

    I loved this! It is so cute🥺 and it feels so real. I feel like their friend, hanging out with them

  • persona

    Bruh 19....... that just seems a lil.... too young. You barely know who you are at 19

    • jelly bunny
      jelly bunny

      aha yes, of course it's extremely likely that every single person on earth has the exact same mentality and level of self-growth at a certain age, i totally agree with you.

    • Emma Schultz
      Emma Schultz

      persona chevk out the vid called ‘haley pham and ryan trahan need to press pause’

  • Ciara Everhart
    Ciara Everhart

    You’re always so fun to watch! Love how cheerful you are:) and congrats again! How far out is the wedding? What kind of covid impacts are you dealing with? I’m engaged as well, we had everything planned back in March but had to postpone!!! Hope we get to have it safely in April 2021!

  • Brittany Webster
    Brittany Webster

    I'm 21 and getting married and it is so stressful. We aren't even doing a big wedding or planning a reception. Its mostly the family drama and everyone putting in their two cents that is so stressful.

  • iiSamanthaii

    The wavy hair and the bun on you looked so CUTE

  • theycallmedudaa

    Your entire discussion about your hair is ME. ME ME ME. The hair flipping, the non-middle part, the hating the hair in my face - 100000% hate that! I feel you, it is extremely hard to find a style that works with the quirks and our hair touching hahah

  • Nicole Baker
    Nicole Baker

    Are you gonna post a video of the wedding?

  • Ivy Ohrenberg
    Ivy Ohrenberg

    I LOVEDDDD that up- do hair style so muchhh

  • Yasmin Jemmett
    Yasmin Jemmett

    you're so precious ;)

  • Madison Loehmann
    Madison Loehmann

    I’m a wedding photographer and do more that 50 weddings a year! I’m also getting married at age 21 so i feel ya in the young couple department. I definitely think doing your own makeup is a great idea. It leave time in the day for just you to focus on yourself and you can take a few breathers during that time! Also if you have your hair down, do a dainty half up half down look so that the main pieces of here that could get into your face won’t. To downplay the fact that you’re planning for a wedding, tell yourself you’re planning a fun party instead. Because a party is something you’re not going to put a lot of pressure on yourself for! Most people don’t remember the decor so don’t spend too much time pondering on it. On the day of your wedding, do what YOU need. If you need a few seconds to breath or you need water, always tell someone. Everyone is there for you and Ryan because they love you. Also for less of a clashing schedule, make sure your photographer, planner, and DJs schedule of the day are all the same because the photographer might not know about things only your DJ or planner knows and that leaves room for some bad photos or added stress. Let me know if you have any questions!

  • Rhiannon Takemoto-Jennings
    Rhiannon Takemoto-Jennings

    I'm also currently planning my wedding, so I totally understand your stress! I have been using the apps, The Knot and Zola, which have both been extremely helpful :)

  • Taylor Escobedo Villa
    Taylor Escobedo Villa

    A lot of the bakeries my husband and I went to for our wedding cake did a free anniversary cake where on your one year wedding anniversary they remake the top layer of your cake for you.

  • Caitie Ford
    Caitie Ford

    Girl you are getting SUBSCRIBED to 💕

  • Meghan

    Thank you for being open and vulnerable with us telling us how wedding planning actually goes because it’s nice to know that it’s not all glamorous and that there is actual hard work and deciding that goes into it so thank you again!

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